"You Want ME to Be a Bridesmaid?!"

I recently had a conversation with someone who was freaking out because her friend asked her to be a bridesmaid in her wedding.  She was worried about all of the responsibility that comes with being a bridesmaid...always having a smile on your face, making sure that you attend every lunch and fitting and hair appointment, etc. She even contemplated offering her friend $1,000 and the total use of her daughter as a flower girl...it was deep but I totally understood where she was coming from.  I was in my best friend's wedding a few years ago and while I was so excited and honored to be a bridesmaid, it was a lot of work and a lot of money...a lot...Here are a few tips that I gave this bridesmaid-to-be in order to make the experience a little less painful:
  • First thing's first...HIRE A WEDDING PLANNER! This will help her stay organized and ease her mind. I always say that there are two kinds of Bridezillas: the first one is the one who never had a lot of attention and is using her wedding as the time to be insane and have people do everything for her...whether it is nice or not; the second one is the one who is completely overwhelmed and unorganized. A planner will help her with everything and you'll be able to be the friend...not the coordinator/event designer/florist etc.
  • Pinterest is a must!  It'll help her organize all of the ideas that she has.  It is seriously such an amazing site. You can create storyboards for anything that you want: the bridal shower, bachelorette party, wedding, even the honeymoon! Do it. You'll thank me later.
  • Be honest! If you absolutely hate the dress, tell her...but in a very nice way. If the dress that she picked out is $600 and doesn't fit in your budget (that would be rude if she wasn't paying for them) you need to let her know. There is no need to resent your friend and hate the whole experience.
  • Remember to tell her how beautiful she is, have a smile on your face and do whatever she asks...she asked you to be in her wedding for a reason...

{Photos courtesy of Our Labor of Love by Heidi}


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